Ladies, Stop Self Shaming!
Let’s talk about the dirty “S” word….Shame. In my journey the thing that held me back, blocking me from success was shaming myself. We have these perceived beliefs about how others see us and how we shape up to others. The truth is, most of those thoughts are false. Everyone around us is so busy thinking about their own stuff they’re really not thinking anything about us. Just like we’re too busy in our own heads!
When I 1st began building my business, I fell into a stage of comparison. I wasn’t where I thought I should be and I thought, “who am I to think I can do this?” It felt horrible and isolating. I was blessed to find a Christian coach who helped me focus my creative flow and stop comparing myself to others. So many things became clearer when I stopped focusing on where I thought I should be and refocused on the journey and embracing God’s plan and timing.
There are some things you can do to help reframe those shaming thoughts…
Awareness. Being aware of our own thoughts and catching ourselves when we are self shaming is an important step in stopping it. When you find yourself saying, I can’t do this or I’m never going to get this right. Call yourself out on it. Call it out for what it is! Knowing when and why you shame yourself will help in defeating those lies.
Have a little Compassion for yourself girl! We tend to have more compassion for others than we do ourselves. The worldly definition of compassion is to suffer together. In the Bible it is defined as showing or having mercy, sympathy or empathy. Show yourself mercy girl! Be patient with your own quirks just as you do those around you. Show yourself kindness daily.
Talk about it. Having a tribe you can turn to that will lift you up and remind you how wonderful you are is soo important when the negative thoughts invade your mind. If you don’t have a tribe or aren’t feeling lifted up we have a tribe waiting to lift you up. You are welcomed and loved at Sapphire Wildflowers.
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