Let’s Fix Those Crowns!
We’re gonna fix some crowns today ladies! Have you ever just sat back and thought….why? Why do we as women tear each other down?
I’m an observer, and I can think of many times I’ve been in rooms and watched ladies literally ripping crowns off of other’s heads and stomping on them. This obviously wasn’t in the physical sense, but through their words, eye rolls, judgements, etc. Can you relate to that? How many times have you been in rooms where this has happened? It is frustrating and hard to understand the why. Even though it feels yucky and doesn’t make anyone feel anything, but worse. Yet, it’s this continuous cycle that we as women continue to perpetuate. As if the world doesn’t throw enough at us as women we throw stones at each other.
There’s HOPE ladies! Can you guess what it is?....It’s YOU! Each and every one of you has the power to change the narrative. To begin fixing your fellow sisters' crown. Picking it up off the floor, dusting it off and putting it back on her head. You my friend are the only one who can control how you treat others. We are called to love others, not tear them down.
Let’s walk this out…how do we selflessly put the needs of other women before our own?
Let’s start with patience. When you find yourself becoming frustrated take a deep breath and remind yourself that you have no idea what the other person is going through. Someone else's bad moment or day doesn’t need to become your bad day.
Give Compliments! If someone is being less than friendly, pay them a compliment. Show them kindness despite their lack of. Let go of the need to one up them or fight fire with fire. Do not judge someone on a single moment or interaction. Until you know their testimony you do not truly know them. Show kindness!
Practice Forgiveness. How’s that old quote go? Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone. You are the one who gets burned. You my friend are the one getting burned by your anger not the other person. At the end of the day, anger is unforgiveness manifested. It’s not always easy, but we can’t afford not to.
Listen more, Talk Less. Sometimes we jump to judgment, conclusions and assumptions about other ladies because we forget to be quiet and listen. It’s not always about verbally speaking. Sometimes it’s the quieting of our minds as well. Allowing us to truly hear what someone else is saying.
I hope these steps help you to begin being a crown fixer. You’ll be amazed at how your interactions shift when you begin lifting others up. If you need support along the way the Sapphire Wildflowers community is here to support you. Subscribe to our newsletter today! Be sure to follow Leading from a wildflower spirit, so you don’t miss another episode. Next week we’re gonna talk about defeating the lies that others tell us and that we tell ourselves. See you next Wednesday at 8am and have a beautiful week ladies!
